Let go to let in.
The energy of this month feels like a rebirth, both in nature and for us humans. There’s so much happening around us: gardens are blooming, butterflies and moths are spreading their wings, migratory birds are returning. For us humans, the clocks move forward, we enjoy longer days, and the Easter break gives us a chance for rest and reflection.
There's a sense of optimism and renewal, as if we're shedding old layers and making room for new possibilities. But these possibilities can only take root when we create the space for them in our mind and heart. To create that space, we need to let go of what no longer serves us.
One thing that’s come up frequently in my coaching conversations lately is the self-imposed pressure—and even a kind of 'self-aggressiveness'—to do more, faster, and better. A sense of missing out, feeling not good enough or not doing enough, and struggling to pause, slow down, and breathe.
In this endless race of doing, we forget the fulfilment of simply being. In our relentless pursuit of goals, we overlook the beauty of the ‘messy middle.’ In chasing the imagined fulfilment of a future outcome, we miss the joy in each moment. In our longing for more, we forget that we are already enough.
With this mindset, we condition our happiness. We say to ourselves, again and again, “I’ll only be happy when…” “I’ll feel content with myself when…” “I can be at peace with myself when…”
Why not now?
Who decides when we can give ourselves permission to love ourselves and our lives unconditionally? Who sets the tone for what “being or having enough" really means? Who writes the definition of what it means to live a successful life?
What if there is another way to measure what success really means? In many ways, the definition of a successful life isn’t ours—it’s inherited from family, society, or the world at large. If success is something we inherit, can we give ourselves permission to change it?
Can we align it with our values, with what truly matters to each of us and make it our own?
The moment I let go of my inherited definition of success and created my own, my life completely changed. I stopped placing conditions on my love and joy. This shift led me to become a coach, helping others connect with their heart’s deepest desires, free from pressure, expectations, and “have to’s.” That’s when we can truly start living a life we can call our own.
The beauty of this time of the year —is that it invites us to let go of what doesn’t serve us and realign with what truly matters. Just as nature sheds the old to make space for the new, we too can release the pressures and expectations that no longer serve us.
When we stop chasing a version of success that’s not our own, we open ourselves to our authentic self and the endless possibilities that come from that.
If there was one thing you could let go of today to make space for new possibilities, what would that be?
What would it look like to give yourself permission to simply be, and to recognize that you are enough in this moment?
As we step into this season of growth and possibility, let’s remember that this journey doesn’t need to be rushed. It can begin with letting go, trusting life, and staying open to what’s to come in our next season.